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The dealbreakers list would have to be pretty extreme for me to walk away at this point, but, yes, serial killer is near the top ;. This man is amazing. Sounds like life is happening! Sometimes our best laid plans, pardon the pun, get changed. Guy loves you, owns dream home, is committed, blessing of a child, mom happy I just think you should pray about the situation on your own and with him. I think God will provide guidance and that it is possible with the help of God to overcome such life challenges.
Sure, something unintentional happened and that can be frightening. Yet, as Helen Keller said, "When one door closes, another opens. Thank you so much for your positivity and encouraging words! This was very unexpected, but I want to make the best of it and do my very best to provide a loving home for this little one. You are welcome but I don't think that's the right thing to say I'm sorry people were so mean to you. They are not in the holiday spirit and probably never have been.
It's a beautiful thing how you are putting your child first. I think you will be a great mom. I have to wildly disagree with you here. The OP had sex with this new man 1 time and this happened. She wasn't trying to get pregnant. The only thing she could have done differently is to not have sex at all but in most non-religious relationships, that is a nonstarter. I'd be shocked if, given the short time they've been dating, the OP and her partner have even had their first fight.
So the idea that "something is off" is a bit obtuse. If you plan to remain a virgin until you are married then I understand where you are coming from but if you are sexually active, you may want to reconsider some of your ideas of the efficacy of birth control and what indicates "something off" in relationships.
There is a difference between typical use and perfect use though. Perfect use of condoms along with a hormonal method makes a surprise pregnancy nearly impossible. When my husband and I were having sex while we were dating, the condom broke twice and both times we immediately ran to the drugstore for Plan B. I agree that birth control is not fullproof but I don't believe that pregnancy is not preventable is this day and age.
This is a moot point since the OP is pregnant and intends to carry her pregnancy to term. OP, I'm sorry that you have been attacked for your situation. I don't understand why since you seem to have found a good man and you're determined to make the best of your circumstances. Continue to get to know him. Don't rush into marriage because you're pregnant. I've seen many couples marry due to pregnancy and they are either divorced or very unhappy. Late to the party as per usual , but all I can say is..
It sounds like the circumstances picked you to be a full blown couple, and the only advice I could give is, be mindful of not getting swept into the drama of the whole situation. Thanks for the advice and congrats! I am a very easy going drama-free person, so I don't think that will be a problem. That is a good point though since there is so much excitement at the beginning of this relationship. I hope we will be busy enough for the next 18 years that this won't be an issue, but I fully intend on making him and our relationship a priority.
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I will simply say that at 40, he knows himself and what he does and does not want. I'm so happy that I didn't follow through with my 'what ifs' even though I laid awake at night for years thinking, "what if I had done this? But now I figured out why. Oh, it was because I was meant to have my son and he was meant to be born. Any step in an inch of another track wouldn't have led me here. Just something to think about.
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Some of them were also maturity and personality issues. He was more interested is having fun then being a dad, and so was the mom. Quite a bit of neglect, which my friend and her parents tried to mitigate. They hated giving gifts to the girl because they knew the mom would turn around and sell them when she got home. Other friend got pregnant in her early 20s. They separated after he hit her, but she still tried to make things work as co-parents. This was going well until he got another women pregnant after 2 months of dating.
His negligence resulted in the some having a MRSA infection and being hospitalized during for a week. Things evened out when he broke up with the lady who had his second child. Third women was a coworker in her thirties. She was immature emotionally and was not someone I thought should care for another living creature.
She played fast and loose with her BC, then blamed the baby daddy for getting her pregnant. Found out he had a weird custody arrangement with his ex and his stepdaughter hated her. Broke up and child support became an issue. I'm the product of my parents only knowing each other for 5 months before they found out my mom was pregnant with me.
Shotgun wedding a month later had 4 more kids stayed married for 18 years divorced now for 10 and cant stand to speak to each other. They definitely should not have gotten married but cant imagine my life without my siblings. Not me but a relative of mine- she and her boyfriend of 4 months got pregnant.
Their gorgeous daughter is 2, and they seem to have an incredibly loving and healthy relationship. Even though I was on the pill, I found myself pregnant one month after meeting someone on a blind date. My parents got married after 7 weeks, my grandparents after 5 weeks. Neither one was due to pregnancy though, and they're still together. They are definitely atypical of that kind of whirlwind romance. Orthodox jews usually go on a couple dates and figure out pretty quickly if they'll get married or not. I knew a woman who got engaged after four weeks to her husband.
They have more than 10 kids and as far as I know, they are both happy! My parents got pregnant with me three months into dating married after 3. Had a friend of mine knock up some chick at a party at university. She had to drop out, his classes suffered as he tried to work and complete his studies at the same time. They managed to marry after graduation, things were going great, he found a decent job and things were finally financially stable.
Then they try for a second child. She gets pregnant almost right away. They decide that two are enough, and he goes to the Doc to have his tubes tied. Starts dating girl, despite our warnings that she has a history of emotional and physical abuse towards her partners. Moved in with girl, despite our warnings that it was too soon and that they didnt' know each other well enough. Finds out girl is pregnant, despite our warnings that she had been obsessing about wanting his child for a month.
Despite ALL of us telling him to use protection. He believed her when she stated that she "wasn't ovulating" and therefore had "zero chance of getting pregnant". Flies with girl out of state to tell her parents, announces on social media. We all think he's actually going to step up. Breaks up with her over text, flees their shared apartment, forces a mutual friend who was mourning the death of a grandparent to go check on this girl who has a history of suicide attempts.
Refuses contact with her when she is at highest suicide risk, with his unborn child still in 1st trimester. Orders a police escort to accompany him to get his things from her house, conning his friends into thinking that she was physically dangerous. She's posting video on video on Facebook confused and sobbing.
She's a barista, has multiple untreated mental health disorders, and is hopped up on pregnancy hormones. She moves to live with her parents. Tells him not to follow her, that she's fine with him living in the same state or even a city nearby, but not in the same city as her. He states that he's intending on moving to the same city as her "because it's what's best for the baby". He states that it's "too steep" and that he'll "buy her some diapers instead" She has also started dating someone.
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My friends and I have started taking bets on where this dude is going to be when baby is born. She and new guy are engaged. Baby-daddy asks to speak with fiance. Instead of assessing what kind of person will be rearing his child, he chooses this moment to try to "warn him" about how dangerous she is. This is the most stable any of her friends have ever seen her be. Baby is born and is most definitely his.
Since she and new-guy are married, by state law, new-guy assumes paternity rights if he signs the birth certificate which he does. Baby-daddy is on a "soul-searching" road-trip giving bogus life advice to his Insta followers. Baby-daddy has still not acknowledged the birth of his child. The kid is 11 weeks old. He claims not to understand why all of his friends bailed on him, even though we have laid it out plainly and explicitly for him. Why is it that in my mind I read this like Joe Friday from Dragnet giving the narrative of an investigation?
Got together late October. Found out she was pregnant January 1st. Have a 3 month old little perfect girl now as a part of our blended family with 4 kids total. Things are amazing though and I couldn't be happier. My friend has a wonderful, smart four year old girl and the father's family takes her two nights a week. The parents are cordial, though not particularly close, and both families love and want what's best for the little girl.
It was touch and go leading up to the delivery, but the father decided to be involved after a paternity test. She decided that she would have an abortion. I was more than OK with that but would have let her choose anyway. Well, we're married now and I'm 6 months pregnant. It's working out really well so far, even though the fact that I'm pregnant has added a lot of stress onto our lives and our relationship. Met in December, married in April, pregnant in June. Still married six years later with a little girl.
Predictably - we were dating basically binge drinking and hooking up for a few months when I got pregnant, we tried staying together, moved in together, had a baby, got married, were married for maybe 2 years and then divorced. The relationship was never right but it just fell apart after awhile. The final kicker was when we tried to have a second child and I miscarried and he was not supportive, started staying out all the time, almost certainly cheating.
On a good note, he turned out to be a person I don't like at all but he's been a good dad and I'm grateful for that. Wife said he cheated, lied and left and is still a huge fucking douche. I can vouch for that, he barely comes around for their 11 year old. Dudes missing out on a great kid.
Met someone, she got pregnant within the first month of dating. I was afraid of all and terrified to be a father but at the end I accepted my fate, she decided to keep it but as soon as the pregnancy exam came positive she changed her mind. I was more than okay with the decision until later.
After taking the abortion pills, turns out she was still pregnant. After a month we realized the baby was not alive, paid for her "cleaning process" don't know correct term at a hospital to take the dead remains out. After that she decided she wanted to cut all communication with me even though she knows i was supportive and willing to stay with her through all until the very end. Got blocked from everything.
I'm just offering some perspective from the other side. Absolutely, my pain and regret is huge and even though I know I did my best to keep her safe, and helping her through the process I keep on blaming myself. Pregnant 4 months into dating. He was an abuse asshole.
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Continued well after we left him. Took him to court a few times. Moved out of town to get away after they refused to do anything about anything. He did it to another girl. Haven't heard from him or his family in a year and it has been lovely. When i was 25 I met a guy. I was completely in awe of him. He was full of potential, great with my daughter, working hard and getting places in his life.
I was pregnant two weeks later. November was a cold month Fast forward to today. We have been married for almost five years and our son just turned four in August. He stayed home when i went back to college and he has always been supportive of my in every way. I'm extremely lucky that he came into my life. I wasn't headed down a good path and he helped me find my way. Got my girlfriend at the time, pregnant after 5 months of dating. Married a few months after that. It hasn't been anything close to easy. We've fought, fell apart and almost haven't made it.
At the end of the day, I wouldn't have taken this journey with anyone else. Or I can't imagine anyone else in her shoes. It's tough, but what relationship isn't? My mom and dad knew each other for 3 months before he got her pregnant. My dad asked her to marry him in order to make both sets of my religious grandparents happy and not let them know I was a bastard.
They got married and 4 years later had my little brother. After 6 years of marriage my mom found out my dad had a secret baby mama He already had 1 other baby mama that had 3 of his kids and that he only broke it with cuz he was about to marry my mom and that he was still cheating on her. In rage my mom revenge cheated on my dad and got pregnant with that man. They are both remarried with people that dont make them assholes. We got pregnant 3 months in. I was 25 and he was As my mom interjected her 2 cents in went through all the options, including abortion he put his foot down thinking it was against him and said that it was His baby and whether or not I was there in the end it would be the three of us or just the two of them.
His stance and love for our baby made me love him more. So here we sit with two surprise kids and two more we planned in our beautiful home with our three pups and 12 years together and almost 10 years of marriage. He bought a car in cash for me just before we moved to the Midwest, left it at his moms before we moved and then he closed on our first home when we got here. He knew this girl for like 2 months and on the first night they had sex she ended up pregnant.
They would fight so much at first but now their daughter is about to turn 4 they are genuinely in love with each other, married, and a baby on the way. So it worked out well for us. Almost two years since meeting, we were married within 3 months and expecting within 4. Cheesy as it sounds my love for him grows everyday, especially seeing his bond with our son.
I got pregnant 9 months after getting together with my partner. We'll be celebrating our 17 year anniversary next February. I met my baby's father in rehab, I didn't even like him, but he was cute and I was bored. I got pregnant the third time we had sex, which was in the treatment center van that we were supposed to be cleaning.
After the rehab kicked us out for having sex he went to jail for the probation violation for getting kicked out for basically my entire pregnancy. I stayed sober and he didn't and we have forged a weird friendship, but he wants more and I don't so it's awkward for us. He now has a girlfriend who refuses to leave me and him together unsupervised due to all the weird and thirsty shit he does. I was pregnant within 3 months. We were both a mess. My mum had just passed and I was making stupid decisions left, right and centre.
I genuinely felt like it was love at first sight for both of us, it was a whirlwind of love, fun and lots of alcohol. We just clicked and everything moved so fast. From there things have only improved. We have had some serious ups and downs and made some big mistakes along the way. But here we are and I do love him very much. And he does me. I think we might make it til death do us part. I was 20, he was 21 and neither of us were prepared to have a child. Our parents, or at least mine, were no help. He was a partier and went out most nights after our son was born.
I ended up with horrible post partum. I eventually went on medication and started therapy, but by then we were finished. I sent our son to live with my parents and only got custody of him a couple of years ago when he turned His father is barely in the picture, as he prefers. He has full access, he just chooses to not be around. Which I find heartbreaking, but at least I have an amazing, talented 15 year old whom I adore. So I met a women when I was down on my luck in life. She seemed absolutely amazing but there was always that itch in the back of my brain that I couldn't scratch that something was wrong.
It was a goddamned nightmare of epic proportions. I would not wish that experience on my worst enemy. Was really fun to find out how laws work in this case. Since she was pregnant during her marriage with paternity in question my son was legally her husbands. Got the test done and he was mine. Then I have to do backflips to prove to the state that I am a competent person who cant break a child in half. Had to prove I wasnt on drugs. Had to take classes. All the while she did a quick settlement with the ex husband where he got shit in his favor.
Took two fucking years. Our story is definitely one in a million. We ended up keeping the baby and moving in together, because why not at that point? Got a puppy 3 months later, bought a house 6 months later, had our daughter 3 months after that. Sold said house 3 months after having our daughter, moved across the country for a new job. I quit mine to stay home with the baby.
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We got married in September, when our daughter was 9 months old. We met in early and in October of that year, I was out of town and came back looking for her. Her neighbors said she was taken to the hospital because she had a kid. I didn't even know she was pregnant!!! Well, she claimed that she was at home and felt that she had to use the bathroom and next thing she knows she is giving birth. Mind you, I saw her almost daily and never noticed she was pregnant. She said she didn't know either, despite this being her fourth kid all from a prior relationship.
So, she says that the kid is mine, etc. But, I'm adding up months and if it was mine, I would have had to got her pregnant right away. But, I remember not being able to nut the first time. She says the kid was a preemie. Yet, the kid had normal weight. Most around me are saying, be responsible and be the father etc.
So, I give in and we find a place together. But, I never really felt in love with her. The baby didn't seem like it was mine either. As things go, I realized that I couldn't stay with her. I just didn't see this continuing. So we separate and work out child support, etc. It's around at this time.
I just couldn't get past my thoughts that this wasn't my kid. DNA was a bit cheaper and I decide to get the test. This was procured on my own using cheek swabs. The mom wouldn't consent to a test. Of course we know why. So, I tell the ex the results and tell her I'm not going to pay anymore support. She gets defensive and says I'm a deadbeat. So, I tell her I will take as many tests as she needs but I'm not paying for the tests. She declined and refused. I'm not sure how long is too long to wait for someone to say I love you back.
Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice for me? Whatever his real feelings are it sounds like he is really trying to step up and make it work. I would try focusing on baby and see what happens. He will clearly be involved in child's life no matter what and that means something. Is there any way for you not to move in with him? Because that would be your best bet NOT to get hurt in the long run He is not now "in love" with you.
Or it may not. You could continue to be intimate and great, good friends. But with the knowledge that he has never had and may never have the butterflies for you that you deserve. And even if he professes his love, will there be a little piece of you wondering if it would have happened if not for your child? You are an adult. You were living on your own. You've already been married and divorced. You CAN handle this! And you can continue to date him.
Continue building a solid relationship for what could very well be your happily ever after. One month into our relationship and I was pregnant. Only difference being we were friends for a couple of years. It was definitely hard in the beginning. Mostly me questioning it, because it all happened so soon. I did give him the chance to leave though. I refused to make him stick around or force him to stay with me just because we were having a child together. Your best bet would be to have that talk with him, honestly. You're both adults and even though it's a little scary to think of raising a child with separated parents it'll be better not to lead each other on or be unhappy.
Best of luck to you! I was in a similar situation. I didn't get pregnant that soon, but we had not been together a year when we found out. It was definitely an adjustment for us, but we continued to date. Of course I spent 4 nights out of the week at his place, but I also spent a few nights at mine. It still kept the "dating" aspect alive. Once I was around 7 mos pregnant, we bought home and moved in. Keep dating alive because you are still getting to know each other.
Take that process slow and everything will unfold naturally! Congratulations on finding a good guy! Since you're asking for advice I think you should still take it slow. I would say don't move in with him. Let him court you. Show him you are strong and willing to stand on your own. Let him fall for you and long to have you closer. How can he miss you if you are always there? Suddenly in his space, forcing his life to change drastically You want him to want more of you.